Tell Me What You Think?

[irishredlass]

Dear Flist I find myself with a conundrum. My Eagle's soon the be ex-wife's stepfather passed away early this morning. He was a lovable old curmudgeon and I like his wife as well. Through all of the turmoil created by the Psycho B**** she and I have exchanged very little communication, but all of it has been positive. I have respected her situation caused by the fact that her daughter hates my guts and quite frankly the feeling is mutual. I have understood her need to remain loyal to her child though she knows her daughter is seriously messed up and in the wrong.

My problem is I am saddened by Jerbear's passing and I would like to offer the mother some form of sympathy. It is my normal reaction to send a "real card" and possibly some flowers, but in this case I just do not know. It feels disrespectful and wrong to ignore the passing of someone whom I cared about and respected. Yet, at the same time I do not want to cause her any undue stress by simply expressing compassion and care.

I would welcome your input.

Comments

[beffeysue.livejournal.com]

I agree with lux_astraea. The difficulties created by P.B. don't figure into the situation between you and her mother. Since you truly mourn Jerbear's passing and like her mother, it would be completely right to acknowledge her loss. You needn't even mention P.B. at all in your card, just your genuine expression of sadness at her loss.

Hugs you, Beth

[irishredlass69.livejournal.com]

The damn PB's have it. All agree and so off I go to find an appropriate card and the PB can stew in her own juices.