I have thought about just not being available when they want to spend time, but at the same time this would make me feel bad if I am lying to them just out spite. I am not a spiteful or vindictive person. Nor do I honestly feel either of the people I refer to are either.
I think you hit is square on the head when you said "self-centered". They both are very ego-centric people and I, unfortunately, have helped to foster this characteristic in them by always being available to them. I know I carry part of the blame in what has transpired because of the type of person I am. I am a natural caregiver and nurturer. Thus, I am the opposite of a "needy" person. I am the one that is always giving. It has just been in the last few months I have noticed this trend. Plans will be made and then they will be canceled because "something else has come up". In fact, I had not seen Eagle since the end of February when I helped him move the twit from Iowa to Minnesota. Plans had been made on numerous occasions (5 successive weekends to be precise) only to be canceled when I CALLED the night before to confirm. Then, I basically said screw it. I had not even heard from them until I got the call that he was in ICU. Do you see the pattern here.
So yeah right now I am feeling rather used and put upon. I want to be appreciated for who I am and not what I can do for others and I am a little ticked off.
I think one reason why I love my LJ friends so much is you do care about ME FOR ME not what I can do for you.
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I have thought about just not being available when they want to spend time, but at the same time this would make me feel bad if I am lying to them just out spite. I am not a spiteful or vindictive person. Nor do I honestly feel either of the people I refer to are either.
I think you hit is square on the head when you said "self-centered". They both are very ego-centric people and I, unfortunately, have helped to foster this characteristic in them by always being available to them. I know I carry part of the blame in what has transpired because of the type of person I am. I am a natural caregiver and nurturer. Thus, I am the opposite of a "needy" person. I am the one that is always giving. It has just been in the last few months I have noticed this trend. Plans will be made and then they will be canceled because "something else has come up". In fact, I had not seen Eagle since the end of February when I helped him move the twit from Iowa to Minnesota. Plans had been made on numerous occasions (5 successive weekends to be precise) only to be canceled when I CALLED the night before to confirm. Then, I basically said screw it. I had not even heard from them until I got the call that he was in ICU. Do you see the pattern here.
So yeah right now I am feeling rather used and put upon. I want to be appreciated for who I am and not what I can do for others and I am a little ticked off.
I think one reason why I love my LJ friends so much is you do care about ME FOR ME not what I can do for you.
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