I do understand the problem of miles away! Though I know the people I too am miles away from the people involved... I get it all over the phone.
I understand the idea of a contract and I think this would be a good idea but, I fear my brother can be very unreasonable. He is a very loving man but, hides that love under a very harsh demanding exterior. My brother and I grew up quickly: my oldest brother has Autism and my mother was not the best mother. When my father died I was only six and number 2 brother (the one that is married) was 13 he became my father figure and really had a large hand in raising me ( I even tie my shoes left handed though I am right handed because he taught me how). He raised me through fear. I was terrified to do anything wrong.
I have a fairly stiff spine and learned to stand up to him but, my niece is not the type to do this. She has been coddled by her mother, grandparents and older brothers. She has never held a real job in her life and is basically drifting...she is lost and my brother losing his temper is not going to help matters.
I thank you for your insight now to figure out how to get him to listen to reason from 1500 miles away. Irish
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I do understand the problem of miles away! Though I know the people I too am miles away from the people involved... I get it all over the phone.
I understand the idea of a contract and I think this would be a good idea but, I fear my brother can be very unreasonable. He is a very loving man but, hides that love under a very harsh demanding exterior. My brother and I grew up quickly: my oldest brother has Autism and my mother was not the best mother. When my father died I was only six and number 2 brother (the one that is married) was 13 he became my father figure and really had a large hand in raising me ( I even tie my shoes left handed though I am right handed because he taught me how). He raised me through fear. I was terrified to do anything wrong.
I have a fairly stiff spine and learned to stand up to him but, my niece is not the type to do this. She has been coddled by her mother, grandparents and older brothers. She has never held a real job in her life and is basically drifting...she is lost and my brother losing his temper is not going to help matters.
I thank you for your insight now to figure out how to get him to listen to reason from 1500 miles away.
Irish